On Family, Other Stuff

hanging on to Hanover

As teens travelling the long and straight road home from the University of Cape Town to Johannesburg for the holidays back in the 80's, HANOVER was merely a small scattered array of buildings on the side of the N1: a place to slow down a little before accelerating to the next town. We would never… Continue reading hanging on to Hanover

On Family, Other Stuff

how to let go and why to hold on…

Writers are tricksters. We are taught that the headline or the first line must hook the reader. If the reader doesn’t care about your first words, you’re history. Kaput. No-one cares what you have to say next. You’ve only got about 15 seconds to catch your reader. I get this though don’t always adhere to… Continue reading how to let go and why to hold on…

Life and Living, On Family, Other Stuff

To more moments in 2018

The sun was more light than warmth, the sand hard and cool, just enough for a footprint to be embedded before the sea washed it away. I picked up a beige pebble, rolled it over in my palm, watched a few grains of sand fall quietly. The smooth roundness remained, whole, and complete. I stood up and… Continue reading To more moments in 2018

Friends,, Life and Living, On Family, On women, Other Stuff

why women become lovelier the older they get

As part of my research on women and feminism for my new book, I came across several articles - most notably those in the UK Telegraph and The New York Times on the topic of Why Women Compete with each other. In brief, the obvious starting point is evolution and the process of ‘natural selection’ which I… Continue reading why women become lovelier the older they get

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On the sisterhood and our traveling pants

Growing up in the same household, exactly two years and one day apart in age, the thing we shared most, my sister and I, was the bathroom. More different we could not have been. While I would be chatting to Anna in the kitchen as she prepared supper, having done my homework next door at the… Continue reading On the sisterhood and our traveling pants

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EIGHT OCTOBER OBSERVATIONS

A long, slightly rambling blog. Like the tentacles of an octopus. My October. Children are easily embarrassed by their parents when they get to a particular age. They are from a different generation dealing with different parts of their growing selves in ways they cannot yet fully understand, and we have long forgotten. Truthfully, I… Continue reading EIGHT OCTOBER OBSERVATIONS

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ONE THING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR ON #WOMENS DAY

Cautionary: KINDLY IGNORE THIS POST IF YOU HAVE ANY SPECIFIC OR PRIOR SPECIALIST MEDICAL KNOWLEDGE. I gave up biology in Standard 7. At the risk of revealing anything too private about my life (though it must be said that the concept of menopause, at this stage, is entirely mysterious and reserved for a select few… Continue reading ONE THING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR ON #WOMENS DAY

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On Kafda, and thoughts of one and other special things.

I’d been reading Kafka on the way up in the car, scanning through ‘The Metamorphosis’ and other short stories, and deciding that I would have to speak to someone about him. I hadn’t read much of it before and felt a bit clueless about what he was trying to say most of the time. I… Continue reading On Kafda, and thoughts of one and other special things.

Friends,, Other Stuff

Snippets of June and my Fifty Balloons

…so, as it happened, when I stood up to start my awaited celebratory speech to the people who were seated beneath those 50 balloons, I knew that, this time,  winging it was probably not going to be the best choice but I tried it all the same. I tend to do that kind of thing sometimes. And… Continue reading Snippets of June and my Fifty Balloons