Cautionary: KINDLY IGNORE THIS POST IF YOU HAVE ANY SPECIFIC OR PRIOR SPECIALIST MEDICAL KNOWLEDGE. I gave up biology in Standard 7.
At the risk of revealing anything too private about my life (though it must be said that the concept of menopause, at this stage, is entirely mysterious and reserved for a select few whom I seldom meet or have heard much about) or my husband’s penis, I thought it necessary to impart the discussion I had with my gynecologist last week. It reinforced my belief that unless we talk to people and are excited to explore ideas about life, there doesn’t seem much point in it– though even more urgent for me is clearly the need to write about it.
Before I assumed the indescribably humiliating and mortifying position of undergoing a routine check- up with my Dr. when he nonchalantly says, ‘OK let’s take a look’ and hoists my legs apart for best vantage point of examining my vaggie- mathingy, we engaged in a wonderful discussion of life/evolution/women versus work issues /success/existence and his abiding memory was how I once confessed to him that I had reached saturation point in nappy changing and feeding . It must have been around 2005 when I had 4 children under 8yrs old.
I mentioned to him something which I had thought about and discussed quite rationally with my husband on occasion and which I know is discussed AD NAUSEAM in women’s book clubs (read wine clubs), on national radio shows (I think) and in car parks in between children’s lifting, though probably not much in boardrooms since there it’s BIG WORK and BIG CLIENTS and BIG BUSINESS, and nothing as trivial as the potential of our continued or improved happiness on this wonderful planet and the extraordinarily vital aspect of human connections (wink face!) and that is this:
Believing as I do, that GOD has created a world so beautiful for us that it is impossible to copy, and humans so advanced and miraculous as to be formed and birthed from another’s body (this single fact is more mind-boggling to me than any other random fact) apart from being a highly developed animal species, whose instinctive behavioral habits occupy much of our interest and understanding, is it foreseeable that he made a teeny tiny error in the longevity of penis activity and the middle – aged woman?
I think you can see where I am going with this…
I suddenly see this in such a different light. The dilemma which so interminably occupies family therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, life coaches, family and marriage counselors, matrimonial advisers, the family advocate, is simply this:
- Man meets woman (let’s just keep it simple though other configurations are of course entirely feasible though not relevant for my purposes here)
- Sexual appetite is comparatively simple as they begin their shared lives of work, play, live.
- Babies are made (or not)
- Man and woman age (some better and others not so well, depending on number of babies birthed, surgical assistance, genetic disposition, et al )
- Man retains similar sexual appetite on the whole; woman (in general, no stats provided – don’t believe much in stats ‘cos no-one quotes the sources accurately and who tests it anyhow?)-battles to keep up
- Man gets a bit upset and if VERY upset, has supplementary sex with other women
- Woman is rather annoyed by this and if sufficiently so, all hell breaks loose
- Man and woman separate/divorce (though of course this is not the ONLY reason for divorce)
- Children are adversely affected for life and lawyers enriched
It seems such a common story.
And yet it strikes me as so sad and pointless when you consider all the wedding vows and romantic songs and tattoos (seemingly the standard thing today, to write names of children on your body lest you forget them ) and POTENTIAL for happy families and economic growth and cohesive, functional societies…
UNTIL my Dr revealed the real reason for all this misery.
‘But don’t you know’, he said, fitting my appointment card back into its folder and knocking it gently into a neat square so that no bits of paper were jutting out ‘that humans are the only species that live beyond menopause?’
‘We’re supposed to be dead?’ I gasped.
‘We’ve created the problem’ he smiled.
So here’s my bit for Womens Day:
Stop worrying about GENDER INEQUALITY, the GENDER GAP and work place discrimination and be GRATEFUL that you’re still alive and CAN STILL HAVE SEX ‘cos before you know it you’re menopausal and SUPPOSED TO BE dead!
13 thoughts on “ONE THING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR ON #WOMENS DAY”
hahahahahhahahahahahaha, absolutely loved this.
Reblogged this on @RuthBH2Day and commented:
A tribute to Women’s day by the very, very clever and witty Niki Malherbe
So pleased you enjoyed it! And THANK you for reblogging it too! Have no idea how to do that still and what the effect is though I think it’s good! And happy womens day to you too Ruth xxx
I am not sure how you survived the 4 kids under 8 bit! Menopause should be a breeze then. And in case you are wondering, men do ‘slow’ down eventually 😉
Thanks for your comment Tandy! So appreciated. I’m going to quote you on this !xx
Thanks Vanessa! xx
Thanks Vanessa! I really appreciate your commenting!x
Reblogged this on Pink Cobwebs and commented:
I could not write this any better….I am rejoicing that I will make it out the other side!!! 🙂
Ah , thanks for your kind comments ! And reblogging! And new follow! All much appreciated. #womengatherers.
Oh dear! And how true 😀
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Thanks for your comment Louise- always appreciated. xx
What a delight Niki! I loved this and so enjoyed your light and wicked humour!!! Brilliant